Why do people only judge teenage moms?

why dont they judge teenage dads. i mean both people made the baby so why is it only teenage moms get judged?Why do people only judge teenage moms?
it's stupid


people are sexist


they pressume because you are the one who carried the baby, its ur fault, u made the bad decision


both people should be seen as having equal responsibility


hey besides, why even blame anyone... if a baby is born then its done, teenage mums and dads should be given support not be 'blamed' for their mistake, or even wat they wantedWhy do people only judge teenage moms?
Have you ever read The Scarlet Letter? It talks about a woman who has to wear this bright red letter A for Adultery on her chest all the time as a punishment and how that really sets her apart from society, even when people almost forget why she's wearing the letter.





Carrying visible evidence of anything perceived as a misdeed will always attract more judgment than if you have no visible evidence. It's not nice and it's not fair, but sadly, it appears to be human nature to do so.





I judge teenage dads, but I've known enough teen moms that I have rather more sympathy for their situations than a lot of people do.
Good question. It's definitely not fair as both a dad and a mom made the baby. However, I think the fact that the girl carries the physical sign of both the pregnancy and then the child it identifies her. Boys don't get pregnant and typically (but not always) don't raise the child.





Now I can tell you this scenario bothers me, but unless over time, we change society's norms it will remain that way. I am teaching my son that if he plays, he pays so to speak. Meaning if he is man enough to have sex, he is man enough to deal with the consequences. He will get a part time job to help pay for the baby and he will invest his time in the child. Being a male and not carrying the child physically in his body, does not give him a free ride.





Bottom line is unless more people do as I am doing with my son, then you will have this.
because the moms were supposed to have been given the information they needed to make the right decisions in giving their body away. Moms have birth control issues that they should have been able to think about. Teenagers fall in love so fast and furious that they forget that it may not be a lasting relationship.That their futures will be affected. This is because they think that sex means love when in fact its an act of love. When a woman gives herself to a man in an act of sex, its fun but the consequences of their actions can be devestating in their lives. Can cause heartache and misery. A young man can't get pregnant so its the woman who must decide if this is what she really wants and must consider before giving their bodies to any man. This is why women are the ones who get the brunt of responsibilty. Don't you think its a woman's reposibility to protect herself from an unwanted child. If a teen wants to get pregnant, most likely its because they never recieved the love from their parents that they needed and hense, they look for it from a child. Teens should learn that having a child isn't the answer to get love. Love is earned and they should have been taught by their mothers to be responsable enough to hold off for the right guy. To be strong enough to be able to say no. Teens are still to young to really understand that most men just want the pleasure and knowing this makes the teen mom responsible for the outcome. It has been this way for years and years. Its just teens don't think about their futures when it come to the pleasures of sex. Nor do they realize how a child can impact their life. Teens tend to think they know what love is and because everyone one needs love, crave to be love they will give thir bodies away to many men before the right one comes along who really loves them for who they are and not just to get some action. So yes the woman is the one to blame as far as having a child when they are just a teen. Saying no, obstaining and birth control should have been mom's focus. They should be able to know that by getting pregnant , puts their future on hold and now they are strapped down to a life of raising a child when in fact teens are still children at a later stage of learning, and if they were more mature they would have not allowed to become pregnent. For centuries men have been known to be sexualy active and without responsibility for their actions. This is because the raging hormones for a man is very hard to ignore. If a teen mom would have waited and obstained, she would have had time to learn this. Thats why teens should have the education from their parents and they should have been taken to a gynocologist way before comming a woman. So they could be taught all about their bodies and how to prepare for sex and love.
Because they expect the girls to be smart and mature...





I really don't know...





Why is it that if a teenage girl has sex they call her a:


Whore/Slut/Easy.... Stuff like that.... Even guys call girls that....





But if a teenage boy has sex they call him:


The man..... What are guys suppose to do.... Have sex with each other since girls are suppose to always be lady like?
I think it's easier to blame the mother because you see it's her fault, and young women are expected to be more mature.





I don't think it's right to generalise all young Mums are terrible- many would be more responsible then older mothers.
People judge everyone except themselves. In our puritanical society it is always blamed on the female. Read, ';The Scarlet Letter,'; and see how some things never change. They're still blaming Eve for the troubles of the world.
Because it is much harder to tell who the teen dad is..


Boys don't exactly go around boasting about getting girls pregnant. Though they used too. A guy who could claim 6 sons of the same age was considered a Man.
I agree it isn't fair but if you think about it, in Australia if a guy sees a lot of girls he's a player which isn't really a bad thing. But if a girl sees a lot of boys she's a slut.
thats a very true statement and its not fair i agree however the teenage mum is more identifiable either being pregnant or with a little one where are you cant tell a teenage dad i guess.
I think that it's wrong to judge anyone especially people we don't even really know.
Very true! I don't think anybody should be judging anyone for any reason.
she is the one who has the choice whether or not to keep the baby